Quarantine had just begun, and I clung to the two-week deadline with certainty. Surely, an entire civilization couldn’t remain closed for more than 14 days?
As weeks stumbled into months, I searched the internet for positive ways to work on myself. I figured this was the best distraction from uncertainty.
That’s how I found The Science of Well-Being, a virtual course offered by Yale University. When I saw that enrollment was free (and it still is) I signed up, hoping to gain some wisdom on how to psychologically survive a global health crisis.
By week four of the class, I…
Tribadism, or dry humping, is one of the first sex acts that humans gravitate towards as kids. Providing our younger selves with the first delicious taste of sexual stimulation. I know of many people who began their sexual journey by practicing tribadism with a pillow or stuffed animal. I even know a Dominatrix whose submissive begs to rub his erection against a bedpost while she watches; tribadism mixed with voyeurism is his cocktail to achieve orgasm.
Regardless of one’s gender identity, tribadism can be a satisfying and empowering sex act.
One beauty of dry humping is how we can enjoy…
Hook-up culture is vibrant, and the term relationship just doesn’t relate to many of our erotic affairs.
Compared to the monogamy standard, casual hook-ups don’t have enough substance to earn the title “relationship”. And as we try to define our habits, the word “situationship” was born, signifing the intersection of sex, romance, and a lack of something that the normative relationship has.
Today, the word “situationship” has developed certain connotations. It is the romantic road you didn’t mean to turn on, and now you find yourself having casual sex when maybe you wanted more. Despite modern love’s hectic tendies, or…
In a perfect world, when we say that we aren’t feeling sexual, our partner would respond by saying, “I’m glad you said something, thanks for taking care of yourself.”
In reality, it’s hard not to take it personally when someone rejects your touch — and perhaps this is where we should start, how society teaches us to define rejection.
Rejection is the dismissal of a proposal; a refusal. It is a harsh feeling to experience in a board room, let alone a bedroom. Yet, we may need to rethink what constitutes rejection in erotic moments. Someone sharing with us that…
When I was young, I used sex as a handshake.
In feminist circles, this behavior was often praised. “Look at you being sexually liberated! I wish I could be so open.”
It was also a great distraction from my own insecurities. Instead of asking myself what I needed from connection, I moved on to the next human.
After years of this erotic dance, I began to feel hallow. Sex became a numbing experience that brought feeble connections and a lack of self-esteem. I discovered that, like most people, I desired validation from others. …
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For whatever reason, I always ended up the best friend of the hot girl. This first began in Junior High, where my funny charisma gained me acceptance into the “popular group”, while my loud personality earned me disdain from my crushes.
High School transformed this experience into something more sinister. Now my beautiful friends had breasts, while I was still wearing a training bra and braces. I soon found myself being used as a stepping stone by boys who wanted to fuck my friends and girls who wanted to be my friends. Once these people started getting attention from my…
I am angry at everyone and have been for over a week now. I can’t sleep. I don’t want to be touched, not even a hug from my sister. But when someone asked me how the party last weekend was, I found myself saying that it was “fun” or “I got to dance”.
Haunting the corners of my cerebellum was Tyler, the man who found me the moment the alcohol was going to my head, making me feel dizzy and out of control. He lived down the street and offered to take me there for a quiet moment.
Kink curiosity is at an all-time high, and for good reason too. BDSM can be healing, empowering, and illuminating for your sexuality.
It also takes integrity and a good foundation of knowledge to make sure you explore kink safely. If you already have a partner, great, but what about single people who are eager to find a lover with similar erotic interests?
That’s why I teamed up with experts at The BDSM Coaches (you may have seen them on Netflix, Vice, + Goop) for a BDSM for Singles workshop.
I’m sitting at dinner and as Judith describes her new boyfriend; she met him on Hinge.
Our friend Elizabeth is to my left, who just married her wife, that she met on Bumble.
Across from me is Angelique, who met her girlfriend of five years on Tinder.
I, however, am currently on a break from online dating. In fact, I had expelled the app from my phone like a rotten tomato. I even had a date lined up as I deleted the app. What can I say? I was fucking exhausted.
Online dating is a decent way to meet people…